How to Talk About Suicide the "Right" Way

Mili Mehta
May 7
2 min read

Talking about suicide can feel awkward or scary, but the most important thing is to approach it with care and honesty. There’s no single "right" way to have these conversations—everyone expresses their feelings differently.

Some people talk about suicide openly, while others hint at it through jokes, vague statements, or even song lyrics. The key is to listen, take them seriously, and create space for real conversations. It’s important to remember that using the word “suicide” or talking about it directly will not increase the chances that someone takes their own life.

How teens might talk about suicide:

Teens and young adults don’t always use the language “suicide”. Here are some other terms, phrases you might hear:

“I don’t think I want to be here anymore.”
“I’ve been thinking about ending things.”
“I’m so done with everything.”
“I kinda wanna just disappear.”
“I wish I could just not wake up tomorrow.”
Using “unalive” instead of “suicide” (especially online).
Posting memes about ‘not wanting to exist’ or ‘respawning’ (video game lingo for starting over).
“I can’t do this anymore” or “I’m tired.”
Using sad song lyrics or social posts about feeling numb/lost.

How to respond the right way:

Take them seriously. Even if it sounds like a joke, check in: “Hey, you’ve said that a few times—are you really feeling this way?”
Use direct language. It’s okay to ask: “Are you thinking about suicide?” It won’t put the idea in their head.
Be supportive, not judgmental. Instead of “Don’t talk like that”, try “I’m here for you. Let’s figure this out together.”
Don’t keep it a secret. If someone is at risk, get help from an adult, a counselor, or call/text 988.

The way someone talks about suicide doesn’t always match how serious they feel. If something feels off, trust your gut and reach out. You don’t have to have all the answers—just showing you care can make a difference.